Showing posts with label abuse. Show all posts
Showing posts with label abuse. Show all posts

Thursday, March 24, 2016

Child Abuse in a Different Form - save Lexi



Imagine seeing your six-year-old child ripped away from you sobbing, “Don’t let them take me. I’m scared!" And you could do nothing to save her! This is precisely what Rusty and Summer Page experienced on Monday when six-year-old Lexi was removed from their loving home in Santa Clarita, California—all because of misuse, even abuse, of the Indian Child Welfare Act, (ICWA)—a federal law that seeks to keep American Indian children with American Indian families.

Lexi is 1/64th Choctaw. It doesn’t matter that the Pages and their three biological children are the only family she has known for years, and that she was thriving in their home. Nor does it matter that the ICWA was originally created for the benefit of the child. Nope. None of that seems to count. Not in this case.

According to an article in PEOPLE, Rusty spoke through streams of tears saying, "She was screaming and she said, 'Don't let them take me.' I told her, 'We're your mommy and daddy and we will fight for you and not give up.' Then they just drove away."

On Monday, with the Page children and their mother weeping in horror as they watched, Rusty Page held his daughter Lexi as she clung to him sobbing and crying, “I’m scared! Don’t let them take me away." Rusty told ABC 7, “At the end of the day, if I can't understand why they would take her, I can't explain it to my kids. We'll fight until I die."

And who can understand? Who can explain such cruelty?

Moving Lexi from her home is, in my opinion as a mother and grandmother, the worse decision that could be made for her. It could traumatize her for life. Most people get this. Thus it was amidst outrage and protests from supporters that the Los Angeles County Department of Children, Family Services officials and Lexi’s court-appointed attorney took this precious, scared little girl from the only people who had been parents to her since she was a toddler.

The Pages love Lexi—so much so that when she became attached, they decided to pursue adoption because they believed it was in her best interests. But that’s where it got sticky. With 1/64 Choctaw DNA, the ICWA makes it harder for Lexi to be adopted to non-Indian parents. Harder - but not impossible. And in this case, the Pages had every right to adopt Lexi. The judge could have granted it—even under ICWA. After all, the ICWA was created by Congress to "protect the best interests of Indian children and to promote the stability and security of Indian tribes and families" (25 U.S.C. § 1902).

Choctaw Nation also claims to want what is the “best for this Choctaw child.” But a look at the tragic scene as heartbroken Lexi is ripped away from her family—those who have nurtured and loved her most of her wee life—contradicts that statement. Looks more like child abuse than watching out for the child’s best interest.

The top ICWA attorney in the USA, Mark Fiddler, claims that the ICWA was horribly abused in this case. It would seem that the Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS) and the Children’s Law Center (CLC) played very large roles in creating this heartbreaking situation.

Johnston Moore is an advocate for cases involving ICWA abuse. He is also a foster father with seven adopted children, two of which also have some Native-American DNA (four times more than Lexi). I asked Johnston some questions regarding Lexi’s case.

JD—Johnston, you and your beautiful family have seen several cases similar to Lexi’s. Have you seen success in getting them back to their loving foster-adopt families?

JM— I’ve seen success in many ways. The outpouring of support ensures the Pages that they are not alone in this. The growing outrage ensures that ICWA as applied is going to be under much closer scrutiny for some time to come. Washington has to take note. I think another success is that the Los Angeles County child welfare system is being exposed to a degree to be a terribly dysfunctional machine in which children’s best interests all too often take a back seat to politics or personal agendas. Hopefully that will lead to reform. Of course, the biggest success of all will be when Lexi is reunited with her family in California, and that is the main focus of my prayers through all of this.

JD—Aside of signing the petition on Change.org, what else can we do to help get Lexi back home?

JM— People can continue to put pressure on those that made this happen. DCFS and CLC cannot simply hide behind the court ruling and act as if they are innocent bystanders. They played very large roles in this saga and in my belief, worked together to orchestrate the ruling they wanted. People can also write or call their elected officials and demand that they take a fresh look at ICWA and the way it is being applied today. This must be fixed before it harms any other children. And, please visit www.Goldwaterinstitute.org and learn more about ICWA and how it is being misused to the detriment of innocent children, many of whom were never intended to be subject to the Act in the first place.

JD—Any more guidance or relevant tidbits of wisdom you can share with us that might help us grab hold of hope for Lexi and the Pages?

JM— Pray. We were told there was no way we could adopt our two sons when we had a similar ICWA battle in Los Angeles County back in 2001-2002. At one point, it looked like all hope was lost. Still, we believed we were supposed to continue to speak up for our sons, who seemingly had no voice (Proverbs 31:8). We did, people prayed, and miraculously, we won. Our sons are 21 and 20 now, and in spite of the doom that some ICWA proponents would argue most certainly should have come upon them, they have turned out quite well in our home. One even traveled to Minnesota with me last May to testify in front of the BIA in opposition to its new ICWA guidelines. It was a proud moment for me when he said that Congress did not have a right to dictate to him what his best interests were when it passed ICWA in 1978.

To help Lexi, please go to Change.org and sign the petition. And use social media to get others to sign. You can also go to Facebook , or Twitter. And to help the family with a donation, please click here. Also, visit Home Forever for more info and resources. 


Here’s a tweet you can steal: URGENT. Little girl heartbroken — ripped away from home. Sign petition to keep Lexi home: https://www.lexipetition.com.  @Change #keeplexihome

“Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves;ensure justice for those being crushed. Yes, speak up for the poor and helpless, and see that they get justice” (Proverbs 31:8 & 9, NLT).

Your voice counts. Please pray--and sign the petition for Lexi here

This article also appears in Assist News

Janey DeMeo M.A.

Copyright © March 2016


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Wednesday, February 03, 2016

Born to Win, a must-see movie


Born to Win is another one of those movies you hope everyone sees. This true story is a tearjerker yet leaves you with hope and a desire to make more of your life—to become a winner.

Leon Terblanche—played by Greg Kriek (Momentum), and little Leon played by James Reardon—knew fear and abuse at a young age. With the exception of a short season of happiness in the modest home of “Mama” (Sylvia Mdunyelwa-Kobus), Leon’s life was miserable—so much so that by the time he was a teen, his heart had become callous.

But the camaraderie of college life brushes the hardness aside especially when he falls in love with Elmarie—played by Leoné Pienaar (Break Away). When the couple marry and give birth to a daughter, life seems promising. At least for a time.

But Leon’s battles are not over, and when hardships arise, so do his inner demons. It will take a miracle to save his marriage. And another to save the life of his daughter, Briggitte (Marié Cronjé).

The story takes place in South Africa in the apartheid era yet in Mama’s home, her son (Zuki Sigwela) and Leon become like brothers with no regard for color. Another interesting element is Leon’s work among physically disabled kids. He is confronted with their own struggles in light of their handicaps, many of which are the result of injustice.

Not until Leon reckons with his own hurts through Christ can he offer anything meaningful for the hurts of others.

I could criticize a few things in this movie such as the fact that the Terblanches sit in the front row of church on their first visit (most people would feel self-conscious), but then if they weren’t in the front, drama would be lost. Artistic license wins. Or I could mention that the voice used for God is a tad cliché, but then again I’m not the one who heard it: Leon Terblanche is. The bottom line is that the story is superb and all the better because it is true.

Written and directed by Frans Cronjé and produced by the same producer as Faith Like Potatoes, which sold more than 2.2 million DVDs in 17 languages worldwide, Born to Win will likely soar to the same heights and become another winner. (No pun intended.)

Learn more about Born to Win here on FacebookOr here. Buy the DVD here.

Janey DeMeo M.A.

Copyright © February 2016


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